Black women have a hard time dating
But buried toward the bottom of its About Us page is a fuzzy You Tube video that indicates a wider problem.
The video is a defense of the company — directed at "haters" who have criticized Black Girl Travel for encouraging black women to date men in other countries."The heart of what we do is about empowering African-American women with options," says Fleacé Weaver, founder of Black Girl Travel, in the clip.
"There are a lot of incredible men out there, yes, you know you want a brother. Though I cringe to admit it now, I was excited by the possibility of a semester spent flirting with Swedes.
As a painfully self-conscious biracial woman, I had struggled to date at an Ivy League school, and studying abroad was as much an escape as it was a necessary academic endeavor for an international relations major.
"I have done a lot of research and talked to a lot of women in this country, and what I'm hearing is: You can't find dates, you can't find mates, you can't find husbands."Weaver, a statuesque black woman flanked by two chic employees on either side, is all long lithe limbs and wavy hair. "What you gotta do is open your mind." Weaver's not alone in her exhortation to black American women.
Her presence, despite the poor video quality, commands the screen."And I kind of thought about, like, well why is that? The idea that we should travel abroad — particularly to Europe — to find love has a home in online discussion groups, travel websites, blogs, and Facebook pages, all of which earnestly and enthusiastically encourage us to "swirl," i.e., date non-black men (the term is designed to evoke a half-chocolate, half-vanilla soft-serve).
The wingman walked up to me as his friend stood beside him and screamed over the music, “You’re perfect!
By clicking on or navigating the site, you agree to allow us to collect information on and off Facebook through cookies.Once, I was at a bar with friends when two white men approached me.One was a guy who was interested in talking to me, and the other was acting as his wingman.Women, particularly Black women, are an easy target for a patriarchal industry.At first glance, Black Girl Travel seems to be like any other American international travel club, just one that caters exclusively to black women.
” Against my better judgment, I assumed that the wingman just wasn’t very good at his job and started talking to his friend anyway.