Dating a divorced man with 3 children
I would advice you to stay away from a relationship with a divorced man with kids.
That basically ended b/c he didn’t want to get married or have more children and I realized I do.
I recently started talking to a 30 year old Hispanic guy that is going through a divorce and has two young daughters . The main reason is because you don’t have children of your own.
He seems very nice and hasn’t said anything bad about his ex other than it sounds like she cheated on him since he mentioned trust issues. I’m keeping an open mind, but I don’t want to be stupid either. That the divorce isn’t final, so I’m dating a married man. You have to keep in mind that having kids for the first time will be an incredible first experience for you as opposed to him just being a repetitive one.
This is important in determining whether or not you’re willing to go through with the relationship.
However, a divorced man can’t just erase his ex-wife from his memory and his life.
Having dated a divorced guy, I can speak from experience of what to do and the mistakes to avoid if you do decide to go down this path with a divorced guy, especially if they have kids.
DATING MISTAKE 1: I ignored the signs of his opinion on kids.
Instead, confront your situation head on (if you want kids with a divorced guy) especially if he has children already.
During the relationship he may run into old friends who ask about his divorce and his ex-wife, so mentally prepare yourself for that.
Don’t get insecure, angry, or sad every time you hear her name.
I believe that marriage teaches men responsibility, structure, how to co-define reality, what women want and how to put someone else before themselves.
I have giggled to myself and so very much appreciated the little things that divorced men I have dated have done for me.